Astrology of Motherhood
A Celestial Love Letter To Moms Around The Zodiac
By Dikki-Jo Mullen
“I feel disillusioned and cheated. If only I’d known what it was going to be like I never would have had that child. I hope little Tiffany never guesses how her mother feels.”
The lovely thirty five year old lady finished speaking and dissolved into tears. Working as a professional astrology consultant for many years, I thought I’d heard every thing and gained some insight into nearly every personal dilemma. But this situation really puzzled me. This client had been looking forward to motherhood eagerly, actually passionately, just months earlier. After having worked steadily for over fifteen years, she said she couldn’t wait to quit and stay at home full time to devote all of her attention to her home and family. When she had last had me look at her birth chart, in the 7th month of her pregnancy, she had been bubbling over describing all of the projects she and the new baby could pursue together once she was free from the drudgery of the job. She mentioned sharing walks in the park, reading, play dates, etc. after Tiffany’s arrival. Now she was bored, she missed the excitement and challenges of her real estate career and she resented her husband’s job. Her once happy marriage seemed headed for trouble.
“Last night we had this terrible argument. I told Tim that Tiffany would never have been born if he was the one stuck at home all day. He said to put her in day care and go back to work, but I just can’t leave her with strangers while she’s so tiny,” With that the new mother began sobbing again.
With record numbers of women in their thirties and forties or even older deciding to have first babies, this problem of coping with a life style change is bound to be a recurrent one. The younger mothers in their teens and twenties are usually more adaptable to many of the adjustments a new baby demands. However new mothers of all ages, unless they’ve had previous experience with staying at home with children, are in for some real surprises about the needed life style change. The children are only yours to cherish and nurture for just twenty years or so, after that they belong to the world. It’s important to make the best of those precious years.
Astrology can offer some insights into meeting the chores and challenges which come along with the joys of motherhood. A woman’s Moon sign at birth is a key factor here. The Moon, once worshipped as a fertility Goddess, describes feminine energy in the birth chart. Family life as a whole, children under the age of seven, and the way a woman relates to children are all described by the Moon’s sign and house placement as well as close aspects to the Moon will add more perspectives.
Women with the Moon conjunct Mars, Saturn, Uranus or Pluto might have mixed feelings about motherhood. They should plan and consider carefully before starting a family. Those with the Moon in a square or opposition aspect to any of those four planets may also find that a baby is a mixed blessing. In contrast women with the Moon conjunct Venus, Mercury, Jupiter or the Sun can find deep joy and satisfaction in the role of mother. A sextile or trine aspect between the Moon and those same planets will also show happiness in motherhood.
Moon-Neptune aspects in the mother’s chart can show a spiritual link to children. Emotional rapport and nonverbal communication can be strong. However negative Moon-Neptune aspects can bring a handicapped, ill or other special needs child.
For those who still would like to become a mother, astrology can help. For about 3 days each month the Moon will be in the same PHASE (the 8 phases are the New Moon, crescent, first quarter, gibbous, Full Moon, disseminating, last quarter or balsamic) it was in at the prospective mother’s birth. That’s when conception can occur, it is the fertility cycle; the right time to break out the champagne and get romantically active. If the Moon is in a water or earth sign, then the baby will likely be female. Air and fire moon signs at conception usually bring a male child, so it’s easy to select the gender of the baby too!
Here is an exploration of the Moon by house and sign to aid in understanding how each woman will adapt to motherhood. Astrology reveals how this most important of all jobs can be best accomplished by all moms. Be sure to read both the paragraphs associated with the Moons sign and house placement at birth to get the whole celestial motherhood picture.
ARIES (or the Moon in the first house)
Volatile and impulsive, you must cultivate patience. As a mother your temper can flare suddenly. Develop the habit of giving yourself a few minutes to cool off when the kids act up. Physical activity is a good outlet for you. Jog, do yoga or aerobics, play tennis, etc. regularly. You’ll tend to be competitive and ambitious for your children and might get them involved in sports or contests. Be consistent with them and allow them to make their own decisions when appropriate. You might feel more closely connected to male children than females. Bright colors and sunlight in your home will work wonders on your mental attitude. Keep your environment warm and cheery.
TAURUS (or the Moon in the second house)
The Moon is said to be exalted in this sign, so you can find motherhood quite fulfilling. Security, (emotional as well as financial) will be needed in order to feel really content as a mom. Plan a sensible budget, shop for bargains, try to accumulate a nest egg for the future. Loyalty in the marriage is especially important to you. Be flexible, learn to laugh when the daily routine is upset. Your emblem, The Bull, suggests stubbornness, a trait you might have to overcome. Starting a garden, growing edible and ornamental plants, be a pleasing and practical hobby while you’re at home with baby. You appreciate fragrances too, so use incense or potpourri to create an ideal ambiance.
GEMINI (or the Moon in the third house)
Quick witted and resourceful, youll revel in telling children stories, reading to them and teaching word skills. However you can get nervous and fidgety too, occasionally youll have to seek someone with whom you can have an adult conversation. Subscribe to magazines, bring home library books, and catch the latest movies to make the role of stay at home mom more enjoyable. More than most women youll need some time away from the house. Take an evening class. Breaking up the daily routine by taking a drive or walk with baby can be refreshing too. You might enjoy getting to know a neighbor or spending time with a sister or cousin to share thoughts and tips about motherhood.
CANCER (or the Moon in the fourth house)
With the Moon in its own ruling sign of Cancer (also called moonchild) your attitude toward motherhood is serious and devoted. Don’t smother your offspring with too much attention or stifle their growth with incessant worry. Try not to be too subjective, you can feel hurt or rejected by family members if they don’t seem to appreciate all you do for them. Your enjoyment of motherhood can be enhanced by studying ancestry and drawing the family tree. Collect keepsake photos and antiques. Experiment with family recipes, assemble them in an album to illustrate written accounts of stories Grandma told about her own childhood to share with your own baby someday. Studying interior decorating or gourmet cookery can add a happy dimension to your life as a stay at home mom.
LEO (or the Moon in the fifth house)
Make the home your stage, live with a theatrical flair. You need romance in your marriage. Even after the baby arrives, you’ll enjoy dressing everyone and every thing up to make an occasion of evening family dinners. You’ll take great pride in your offspring and will enjoy choosing the latest toys and attractive clothes for your little one. Forever young at heart, you’ ll revel in helping baby to develop a social circle. Arranging parties, picnics and other outings to share with other mothers and babies can give you much pleasure. You’ll also enjoy doing arts and crafts at home. Having a creative outlet is always fulfilling. As your child grows older encourage him or her to color and draw, perhaps developing skill in art or music.
VIRGO (or the Moon in the 6th house)
Exacting and rather critical, you’ll feel best if the house is very clean and orderly. Keep baby care on an efficient schedule. Health is a major focus for you. You can become nervous and upset from the stress of child care, so find a few moments of quiet meditation daily. You’ll enjoy approaching motherhood as an intellectual challenge, as Virgo is ruled by intellectual Mercury. See about enrolling in classes about parenting or collecting reference books on the subject. Learning all you can about early childhood education and health care will add to your security and create enjoyment concerning your new life style. Joining a yoga class or health spa to keep up your own vitality and trim figure would bring you happiness too.
LIBRA (or the Moon in the 7th house)
This Venus ruled sign is closely associated with social niceties, diplomacy and good manners. With this accent on the Moon, you’ll want to maintain courtesy and fairness within the family. Sharing chores and having guests visit your home will bring happiness, as you seldom like to be alone. Your natural charm assures popularity. Business associates from your former job or those connected with your spouse as well as relationships with various relatives can make you content. The beauty and fashion conscious Libra Moon shows that focusing on your own clothes, jewelry, etc. after baby arrives will bring rewards in terms of personal happiness and satisfaction. Keep fresh flowers around the house.
SCORPIO (or the Moon in the 8th house)
You might notice a resemblance between the new baby and a deceased loved one, or feel a sense of reincarnation and de ja vu. Have you met this little one before? You will probably find motherhood truly transformative. If possessive or jealous feelings toward a child or spouse arise, work through them, releasing anger or frustration in a positive way. Be flexible, remember Scorpio is a fixed sign and life with a little one can’t be rigid. Relaxing with a thriller or a detective novel or studying astrology and metaphysics can help you to explore new thoughts and take your mind away from any frustrations.
SAGITTARIUS (or the Moon in the 9th house)
Religious and philosophical writings about motherhood can help you cope with the demands of the new baby. You need a great deal of freedom and shouldn’t allow yourself to feel housebound. Buy a papoose style back pack and go out with baby on the town. Exercise, attend church groups or continuing education classes at a local college campus. Your pets will may be almost as important as the baby. Reflect on long term goals you have for your child and the family. Remember that Sagittarius is the sign of aspirations and new horizons. You could become intrigued by child care techniques and babyhood in foreign cultures. On difficult days think of motherhood as a challenge. Meeting it well should sustain and encourage you.
CAPRICORN (or the Moon in the 10th house)
You’ll begin facing motherhood as a responsibility. Caring for the baby’s material and physical needs will come first. After that you’ll slowly begin to enjoy your new role. You’ll be conscious of family image and reputation in the community. Motherhood will bring a new sense of dignity. Look for ways to continue your career or begin a home based business. As time passes you’ll cherish the memories of baby’s early years, but for the moment you can find your new role a bit overwhelming. Keep aside some household money for yourself, you need a little control over your own finances. Even tossing coins into the proverbial cookie jar or earning egg money can bring you a sense of well being. As an avocation you can enjoy studying politics or economics. Hunting for bargains at yard sales or thrift stores can be enjoyable too.
AQUARIUS (or the Moon in the 11th house)
Curiosity may have tempted you to try motherhood. You’ll enjoy exploring how maternal feelings develop upon arrival of the new baby. The changes brought about by the presence of this new family member will fascinate you.
From the very first you’ll see baby as an individual. Encouraging his or her self sufficiency and sense of independence will be important to you. You attract people. Your home could become something of a gathering place in the neighborhood for other mothers and small children. Joining clubs or networking with organizations can enrich your days. You instinctively see how people need and can support each other when facing the challenges of family life. Equip your home with the latest electronics, state of the art appliances and other gadgets. You enjoy labor saving inventions. Additionally you can find the study of astrology, psychology and social sciences of interest during your quiet hours.
PISCES (or the Moon in the twelfth house)
After the baby arrives you might want to withdraw from contact with the outside world for a while. There can be a reserved, almost shy quality present as you become a mother. Nurture your identity, don’t lose the you within you and merge too completely into the psyche of the new arrival. Give yourself a pat on the back, reviewing all of your accomplishments. Your sensitivity level is so high that you might sense the baby’s needs in advance. As with the Scorpio Moon, a reincarnation link with the baby is likely. You might recognize a past life you had together. Dreams can be vivid and meaningful as you settle into motherhood. Keep track of dream images and recollections, they can contain important guidance and messages about your life style change. Music can soothe and revive you on difficult days. Since Pisces, the Fish, is a water sign, a home aquarium can bring great pleasure. You’d also enjoy a drive along the beach or visit to a pool or lakefront. Consider trying infant and mother swimming lessons.