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Astrology and Your Wedding
By Dikki-Jo Mullen
“A marriage made in heaven” and “Choose not only the proper mate, but a proper time to marry” are just a couple of the many pearls of wisdom surrounding the mystique and magic of love and marriage. A close look at what the quaint axioms really suggest points straight to some interesting ideas concerning astrology and marriage. Timing and compatibility are two key factors in finding greater happiness in relationships through using astrology. At least 50% of the marriages today in the United States as well as in many other countries are ending in divorce. Growing numbers of people endure the emotional scars of multiple unsatisfactory marriages. Finding wedded bliss with the right mate at the right time is a real challenge. Astrology can offer tremendous help.
First of all, it’s important to realize that events have a birthday, a beginning point, just as a human life does. Choosing the most auspicious time to begin a project, to start a business or enter into a marriage, involves a special type of astrology called electional astrology. This is electing (or selecting) the most desirable time to assure success.
To understand exactly how this works, let’s imagine you are about to begin a journey around the world. If you were to leave today, as opposed to departing next week, the experiences you would encounter such as weather conditions, people, etc. would be entirely different on the two different itineraries.
The same is true of married life. The business contacts, neighbors, friends, etc. which become a part of a married couples life will vary according to the timing of the marriage. Of course basic compatibility between the horoscopes of the two partners is the most important factor. Between two horoscopes which are hostile even the most perfect of times selected for the marriage will not help. However, for two people who are in harmony, the best time for the marriage will do much to promote a fulfilling, smooth and successful life together.
First choose the Sun sign under which the marriage takes place, this is the familiar zodiac sign in the heavens for that day. The Witches Almanac calendar section can help if you are unsure of when the Sun moves from sign to sign. The Sun sign (actually this is the Earth’s path around the Sun that day) describes goals, directions and the essence of the relationship. The Sun sign traditionally has a special impact on the husband and the decisions he will make for the couple.
(note: For same sex couples and those involved in other alternative relationships, the references to gender can be adjusted accordingly to select the best chart for your commitment.)
The Aries Marriage
This is suitable for couples who thrive on action and competition. There are likely to be power struggles here between husband and wife. Rising above present circumstances and becoming more powerful in the community can be important. Military life can affect the marriage. Athletic hobbies and outdoor activities can be favorite pastimes. The marriage may take much work and effort and not be a very soothing relationship. Between incompatible couples violence can occur and unfaithfulness is a possibility. On the positive side an Aries marriage seldom gets into a rut and both parties will welcome challenges wholeheartedly. It brings a fresh start.
The Taurus Marriage
May is one of the most popular times for weddings. Because Taurus is ruled by Venus, the love planet, marriages born at this time can be very enduring and tender. There is a rooted and stable energy between the couple. Investment in jewelry, art or other items of value can add to the feelings of mutual security. Finances will always be important. Gardening, building a home, and planning for the future can occupy much of your time together. There is a need to cultivate flexibility in a Taurus marriage though. Plenty of delicious gourmet food and other creature comforts are enjoyed. It is important to focus on physical fitness, as youll tend to pamper and indulge each other.
The Gemini Marriage
June is closely linked with brides and weddings. Because Gemini is associated with ideas and communication weddings at this time can be affected by bridal publications. Shopping for just the right invitations and other accessories for the wedding day can occupy much of the bride and grooms time. After the wedding intellectual harmony is important. The couple might enjoy taking classes together or browsing through every book store and library in town. Conversations will make or break the Gemini marriage. Voicing ideas clearly but tactfully is important. Gemini, symbolized by The Twins, is always about duality; so married life can run hot and cold.
The Cancer Marriage
Home and family life will be a powerful focus in this marriage. Saving money to acquire the perfect home with perfect furnishings is likely to be an important goal. Ties to in-laws and siblings can be exceptionally strong. Heirlooms, genealogy, heritage, and other factors linked to roots and traditions wont be forgotten by couples who marry under the sign of Cancer. At least one partner will definitely want to have children. Mealtimes will be especially important family occasions. Traditional family recipes as well as experimenting with new foods can be enjoyed, with both husband and wife puttering around the kitchen. Because Cancer is associated with the changeable and moody Moon there will be great sensitivity in this relationship.
The Leo Marriage
Like Taurus, Scorpio and Aquarius, Leo is a fixed sign. This is one of the indices of a lasting relationship. The early months of married life will be bright, with great warmth and romance. The couple can be truly consumed by each other. Pride and a certain nobility will characterize their life together. They might acquire showy cars and expensive clothes. Image and reputation are important. Joining clubs and organizations dedicated to pleasure and friendship can be a focus. The couple will maintain a youthful persona throughout their lives. They want to be perfect parents but can be a little overbearing with offspring. Family ties are warm and supportive though, usually overcoming any negativity. This couple will attract attention, one or both might become celebrities.
The Virgo Marriage
Symbolized by the zodiacs Virgin, this is often considered rather unfavorable for a wedding date horoscope, unless one or both partners have been married before. Sharing employment goals, adopting a small pet, and working together can strengthen a Virgo marriage. There might be a business like mood present, its all no nonsense, conservative, and a logical approach to life. However they can descend into criticism of co-workers, friends and each other. Efforts must be made to keep negative comments to a dull roar or this couple will find themselves quite alone. Take advantage of your mutual interest in health and fitness to help each other maintain health.
The Libra Marriage
Venus rules this sign, so like Taurus, Libra is generally considered favorable for a wedding date choice. Both partners will place much emphasis on the relationship. Their identities are found through being together, seldom apart. Justice will be important and the partners will try very hard to be fair with each other. Sharing responsibilities at work or home will seem natural. Neither will be bound by role stereotypes. Harmony will be the norm here, this couple will keep arguments to a minimum. Politics, psychology, sociology and the fine arts can be accented. Good manners and beautiful, artistically decorated surroundings make this couple attractive to others. They will probably have a wide circle of friends.
The Scorpio Marriage
Physical intimacy is likely to be enduring and intense here. One partners attempts to change the other can lead to power struggles. Between incompatible couples marital violence can erupt. Working through jealousy and suspicions is essential. Every effort should be made to maintain openness and complete sincerity. Emotions can overwhelm logic. Work toward keeping a calm, tolerant mood present in the home. Invested or inherited money can add to the couples earnings considerably. Together they can be drawn to banking, detective work, economics and the life sciences. This couple might have a large family, establishing a dynasty of grand children and great grandchildren.
The Sagittarius Marriage
A light hearted and free spirited quality is present with this marriage. There can be a wide circle of friends, but the couple might spend much time apart. Both will cherish their independence. Academic and literary goals can be important, there can be a great deal of travel. For a time they might reside abroad, the partners might come from different countries or ethnic groups. Life is something of a game to this couple, which they will strive to win. They might keep horses, large dogs or exotic pets. Growth, new horizons, fulfilling ambitions will be accented. Others look to them for advice or see them as an inspiration.
The Capricorn Marriage
This is a relationship which will be built on solid foundations. Practicalities will be important. Both partners will have a conservative approach toward the life they create together. Traditions guide their choices and decisions. Emotions will be controlled and an outer dignity is maintained. One partner might feel the other is aloof or cool, so as time passes it can take work to maintain warmth and intimacy. Shared responsibilities will require attention, business and work come before fun and games. Presenting a respectable family image and maintaining prestige in the community will be important to this couple. They will insist upon quality in possessions and social contacts. They might work together, perhaps starting a very successful family owned business.
The Aquarius Marriage
The Aquarius marriage, like the Sagittarius relationship, has a free spirited and unconventional quality. The partners might have life styles which keep them apart for a time. Friendships outside the marriage can be important. Life together is exciting but it can be a roller coaster ride of ups and downs. To preserve this marriage successfully efforts must be made to fan the flame of romance and courtship, not to detach too much. There can be some surprising twists in life together. Flexibility is a must. This couple might feel they have a mission to make the world a better place. Ecology, humanitarian causes, and reform might attract them. Modern and progressive trends and technology will guide their choices.
The Pisces Marriage
Emotions and sensitivity are present. This couple will have tremendous empathy with each others moods, even to the point of telepathic communication, possibly through dreams. Care must be taken not to make a tempest in a teacup over petty disappointments. Honesty and sincerity must be maintained. They will sacrifice personal wishes for each other or for their loved ones. A relative with health or money problems could make demands on this couple. There could be substance abuse in the family. Despite these pitfalls, ties will be strong and there is a sense of genuine commitment. Ideals are high and the romance will linger for years after the wedding date. Creative projects can be shared and the arts enjoyed. Photography, dance, spirituality or church work can enrich this marriage.
Happiness is Elemental
In choosing which of the twelve marriage signs is for you, find the astrological element of your own Sun sign. This can suggest a suitable marriage sign. The Fire Signs are Aries, Leo, Sagittarius. The Earth Signs are Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn. The Air signs are Gemini, Libra, Aquarius. The Water signs are Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces. These groupings reveal which signs have a natural harmony. If your partner is in the same group as you the chances for happiness and harmony are high. Air feeds Fire, so the Air and Fire signs do well together. Water nourishes the Earth, so the Earth and Water signs blend well. Don’t despair though, if you’re a Water sign and your soon to be spouse is a Fire sign. There might be other harmonious influences involving Mars, Venus, the Moon and rising signs or other factors showing that you’re a good match. Check with your astrologer for the specifics.
Some Rules For Choosing A Wedding Chart
Here is much more you can do astrologically to assure a happy horoscope to bless your life with your beloved.
1. The Moon should be waxing and making a trine or sextile aspect to the Sun on the wedding day. The Moon represents the feminine principle and the Sun the masculine within the relationship. Beneficial aspects between these two placements alone will do much to promote a happy and successful marriage. Try to avoid getting married at a New or Full Moon, or at the First or Last Quarter phases as this brings too much tension to the relationship.
2. The Ascendant (rising sign, 1st house cusp) describes the man and his attitude toward the marriage. The descendant (7th house cusp) describes the woman. If the ruling planets of these signs are conjunct, trine or sextile, the chance of happiness is excellent. Benefic planets (Venus, Jupiter, Mercury) are helpful to have in the 1st and 7th houses. Avoid having Mars, Saturn, Uranus or Neptune in the 1st or 7th houses, though. They can generate depressing or erratic influences. If that’s not possible, then select a date when the aspects to those four planets are the soft ones, the trines and sextiles.
3. The 5th house is natural children. The 11th is step or adopted children. Plan the wedding for a time when those houses describe the kind of family the couple wants. For example, the Moon or Venus in the 5th shows female children with charm, beauty and emotional rapport with relatives. Uranus in the 5th could bring a gifted but eccentric or independent child. Jupiter in the 11th would promote good will with step children.
4. The angular houses (1, 4, 7 and 10) relate to the most important areas of a couples life. The man, domestic life, the woman and community status, respectively. Place benefic planets there. Try to bury the malefic planets in the cadent houses (3, 6, 9 and 12). These are areas of secondary importance and should not upset the marriage.
5. Fixed signs (Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, Aquarius) ruling the angular houses will help the marriage endure. Cardinal signs ruling the angular houses (Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn) bring more moves than the fixed signs and the marriage will evolve and grow, The mutable signs on the angles (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Pisces ) bring a variable mood to the marriage. If the marriage chart and compatibility overall are difficult then mutable sign angles can mean restlessness and chances for infidelity or separation.
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